Women and Sex

by Devang Vibhakar on April 10, 2009

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MISCONCEPTIONS GALORE

For many Indian women the subject of sex is taboo. They are brought up to believe that the sexual act is dirty and something that is to be discussed only in hushed whispers. Consequently, there is widespread ignorance.

The ignorance is so great, that I have seen women use vaginal’ gel and spermicide on their fingers!

Most young women believe that any thing they want to know about sex can be gleaned from their husbands and they are consequently reluctant to seek information elsewhere. Unfortunately, the men are multiply in a vicious cycle.

What are these misconceptions? Here I am listing them and also trying to clear up some doubts on certain old wives’ tables.

In my practice, I have found that among women the most common problems are myths regarding virginity. I know at least 20-25 couples whose marriages almost broke up because there was no bleeding during intercourse.

The myth that a broken hymen means loss of virginity has caused undue misery and embarrassment to several women”.

Couples also come to me for problems regarding lovemaking. “Of all my patients 78 % have an actual physiological problem, the rest suffer from psychological blocks in the mind which comes in because of various misconceptions and beliefs“.

One common complaint for many women is painful intercourse “The problem arises chiefly because the husband is impatient and avoids foreplay. The next time the woman is tense and anticipates the pain; this makes the complaint even more painful. The result is that the husband gets annoyed and brands his wife as frigid.

Coming to the subject of menstruation, how the monthly cycle could affect a woman’s mood and her sexuality. Premenstrual tension affects some women who complain of breast tenderness, nausea, backache and irritability. There is a feeling of discomfort in the pelvic region and the emotional disturbances can inhibit her sexuality.

Other women, however, find that their sexual drive is enhanced, resulting from an increased pelvic congestion, which increases pelvic awareness, without causing discomfort.

Sex during menstruation is perfectly safe and natural if both partners desire it. Some women believe that sex during pregnancy is harmful. However, a healthy woman with a normal pregnancy can safely indulge in it. However, it should be avoided if there is pain or bleeding at any stage. If there is any history of miscarriage, then sex must be avoided during the first trimester.

One note of warning from me. If, for any reason, intercourse has been forbidden by the doctor during pregnancy the woman must take care to avoid having an orgasm by any other means, including masturbation. The contractions of the uterus following masturbation are far more intense compared to normal sexual intercourse.

For questions relating to sexual intercourse after the birth of the baby, I am listing the following Don’ts…

Do not indulge in sexual intercourse until the episiotomy scar has healed. (An episiotomy is an incision that is often made to ease the birth of the baby).

Do not rush into sex if the woman does not feel like resuming normal sexual activity. Pregnancy and giving birth to a baby are deeply demanding experiences and she needs time to resume her normal life-style.

I also like to clear the air regarding questions about pregnancy. Can a woman conceive if she has not actually had sexual intercourse? The answer is “Yes” if at any stage of heavy petting the sperm is deposited near the vulva.

They can pass through the minute hole of an intact hymen and travel the full length of the vagina and uterus.There is a misconception that men are more sexual beings and that, therefore it is the male prerogative to indulge in extramarital affairs.

However, women, freed from sexual taboos and constraints are also capable of equal enjoyment. After an orgasm there is a refractory period when a male is incapable of immediate arousal but a woman is capable of multiple orgasms if adequate stimulation is provided.

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Written by Dr. Paras Shah.
About: At present, Dr Paras Shah is Chief Sexologist of Gujarat Research & Medical Institute (Rajasthan Hospital) & Director of Sannidhya Institute & Research Center for Sex, Sexuality and Health.He is the worthy son of eminent surgeon Dr K K Shah whose successful career has been in existence for decades in Ahmedabad.

You can reach to him at:
Cell: +91 98240 63332
Email:     dr9824063332@in.com
Website: www.s4sq.com & http://www.impotenceinfocentre.com

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1 Nisha Patel April 10, 2009 at 9:25 pm

Dear Dr. Shah,

I mostly agree with your points of view from the view of a woman.

You said “Coming to the subject of menstruation, how the monthly cycle could affect a woman’s mood and her sexuality.”

Yes, it does affect sometimes. I think, you have put the most happening points here, which I really found very useful for myself. Thanks for such an informative article. Look forward to read your more articles on sexuality.

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2 jigar panchal December 6, 2011 at 6:45 pm

mari umer24year 6e.mari patni jod sex karvo 6e.to mara su karvu mana janav so

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7 Devang Vibhakar November 7, 2009 at 9:55 am

Maheshbhai, I have forwarded your question to Dr. Shah.

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8 mahesh shah November 29, 2009 at 7:50 am

thanks. but, i’ve not received repl from him.

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9 Devang Vibhakar September 22, 2010 at 8:35 am

Below are his contact details.
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You can reach to him at:
Cell: +91 98240 63332
Email: dr9824063332@in.com
Website: http://www.s4sq.com & http://www.impotenceinfocentre.com

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14 dhanjimatang May 15, 2011 at 8:17 am

PROBLEM:HU EK YUVAK 6U.MANE HASTMITHUN NI ADAT 6E.ENA THI SU PRASN THAYE.JANAVAVA VINTI.

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15 Minajkhan July 13, 2011 at 2:30 pm

Hello sir mare najik na samay ma marriage 6e ane maro saval a 6e ke mare zadpi skhlan thai jay 6e to mare su karvu?

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16 Rajnikant July 19, 2011 at 12:46 pm

Hello sir maro saval a 6e ke mare zadpi skhlan thai jay 6e to mare su karvu?
with out medicine treatment.

please reply me urgenly…

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17 priyapatel September 12, 2011 at 3:56 pm

sir mare ek boy fnd se hu tne pasnd kru shu ene te pn mne prem kre se pn ena ghar waala na pade se ,sir me ene vagr nhi jivi sku ,mne yogy salhhh aaapo

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18 jigar parmar September 12, 2011 at 8:19 pm

sex no anand ane romance karvano anand ghano fark 6e.

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19 deven chaudhary October 9, 2011 at 9:50 am

mari age 23 year chhe.
me aaj sudhi kyarey sex karyu nathi.
atyare jyare hu mari girlfriend sathe sex karvano try karu chhu tyare maro penis utejit thato nathi ane even mari girlfrnd mukh maithun karwano try kare to pan shishna em nu em j rahe chhe…
to mane kai physical weakness hase k su?
where is your clinic?
please give me address so i can visit there
please reply fast

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20 Dear A...J......... October 11, 2011 at 10:30 am

dear sir,
mari age 21 year ni cche ane mari gf ni age 24 year ni chhe ae mane ak saptah ma 5 thi 6 vakhat mane sex karvanu kahe chhe pan hu na padu chhu mane dar lage chhe k su thase aagal ane haju suthi aavo anubhav kyarey karyo j nahi to kahe chhe k mare marrage pahela tari sathe sex karvu chhe tomare su ane sex karvu joia k nhi ane age ma moti hoy to sex ma koi problem aave k su mane aa babte jadapthi margadarshan aapva vinati. ane mari sate ae halma mukh maithun kre chhe to ane koi problem to nhai aave ne ane hu ani sathe marrage kari saku k nhi aa pan janavso plz…..

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21 Jigar panchal December 6, 2011 at 6:49 pm

Mari umer25year 6e.mari patni jod sex karvo 6e. to mara su karvi patni sex ma rash nathi

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22 Heet February 6, 2012 at 9:46 pm

Mari wife ni age 23year 6e ane hamara marriage 2year thaya 6e ane hamare 6okra thata nathi to pls upay batava vinnanti.

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23 pratapbhai khachar March 3, 2012 at 6:31 pm

mara marriage ne 16 year thaya 6. mare count mines 6. ghana dr. ni medecin lidhi parantu count ma vadharo thato nathi to have mare kya dr. ni advise levi. ane aa vat no upay janavva vinanti 6.

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24 pratapbhai March 3, 2012 at 6:34 pm

mara marriage ne 16 year thaya 6. mare count mines 6. ghana dr. ni medecin lidhi parantu count ma vadharo thato nathi to have mare kya dr. ni advise levi. ane aa vat no upay janavva vinanti 6.g

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25 Sunil April 10, 2012 at 8:22 am

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26 kishan May 20, 2012 at 2:46 pm

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29 sanket July 29, 2012 at 5:56 pm

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31 vikash February 27, 2013 at 12:17 pm

rep,sir hu married chu mara lagen ne tren varsh thai gya cha mari wife ne ek vear missket karu padiyu hatu child na apurta vikash na karne te pachi mari wife ne child nathi rhetu doctr ne dekhdi chukya che amera bane na report normal cha mari wife ne masik pen raguler ave cha to pachi sa mate badek nathi rhetu.ame 1vars thi gikoljist pase thi dave lai che.but no rejalt? help me sir!

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33 vikash February 28, 2013 at 12:34 pm

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34 Dhaval joshi March 3, 2013 at 9:11 am

Sir mrei din me 4 5 baar hastmaithun karneki habit hai to kya ye mere liye problem creat kar sakti hai kya?

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35 tusharpatel June 5, 2013 at 7:13 pm

sar mari patni na stan kadak karva kayo protin paudar bajar ma male 6e.

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