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MISCONCEPTIONS GALORE

For many Indian women the subject of sex is taboo. They are brought up to believe that the sexual act is dirty and something that is to be discussed only in hushed whispers. Consequently, there is widespread ignorance.

The ignorance is so great, that I have seen women use vaginal’ gel and spermicide on their fingers!

Most young women believe that any thing they want to know about sex can be gleaned from their husbands and they are consequently reluctant to seek information elsewhere. Unfortunately, the men are multiply in a vicious cycle.

What are these misconceptions? Here I am listing them and also trying to clear up some doubts on certain old wives’ tables.

In my practice, I have found that among women the most common problems are myths regarding virginity. I know at least 20-25 couples whose marriages almost broke up because there was no bleeding during intercourse.

The myth that a broken hymen means loss of virginity has caused undue misery and embarrassment to several women”.

Couples also come to me for problems regarding lovemaking. “Of all my patients 78 % have an actual physiological problem, the rest suffer from psychological blocks in the mind which comes in because of various misconceptions and beliefs“.

One common complaint for many women is painful intercourse “The problem arises chiefly because the husband is impatient and avoids foreplay. The next time the woman is tense and anticipates the pain; this makes the complaint even more painful. The result is that the husband gets annoyed and brands his wife as frigid.

Coming to the subject of menstruation, how the monthly cycle could affect a woman’s mood and her sexuality. Premenstrual tension affects some women who complain of breast tenderness, nausea, backache and irritability. There is a feeling of discomfort in the pelvic region and the emotional disturbances can inhibit her sexuality.

Other women, however, find that their sexual drive is enhanced, resulting from an increased pelvic congestion, which increases pelvic awareness, without causing discomfort.

Sex during menstruation is perfectly safe and natural if both partners desire it. Some women believe that sex during pregnancy is harmful. However, a healthy woman with a normal pregnancy can safely indulge in it. However, it should be avoided if there is pain or bleeding at any stage. If there is any history of miscarriage, then sex must be avoided during the first trimester.

One note of warning from me. If, for any reason, intercourse has been forbidden by the doctor during pregnancy the woman must take care to avoid having an orgasm by any other means, including masturbation. The contractions of the uterus following masturbation are far more intense compared to normal sexual intercourse.

For questions relating to sexual intercourse after the birth of the baby, I am listing the following Don’ts…

Do not indulge in sexual intercourse until the episiotomy scar has healed. (An episiotomy is an incision that is often made to ease the birth of the baby).

Do not rush into sex if the woman does not feel like resuming normal sexual activity. Pregnancy and giving birth to a baby are deeply demanding experiences and she needs time to resume her normal life-style.

I also like to clear the air regarding questions about pregnancy. Can a woman conceive if she has not actually had sexual intercourse? The answer is “Yes” if at any stage of heavy petting the sperm is deposited near the vulva.

They can pass through the minute hole of an intact hymen and travel the full length of the vagina and uterus.There is a misconception that men are more sexual beings and that, therefore it is the male prerogative to indulge in extramarital affairs.

However, women, freed from sexual taboos and constraints are also capable of equal enjoyment. After an orgasm there is a refractory period when a male is incapable of immediate arousal but a woman is capable of multiple orgasms if adequate stimulation is provided.

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Written by Dr. Paras Shah.
About: At present, Dr Paras Shah is Chief Sexologist of Gujarat Research & Medical Institute (Rajasthan Hospital) & Director of Sannidhya Institute & Research Center for Sex, Sexuality and Health.He is the worthy son of eminent surgeon Dr K K Shah whose successful career has been in existence for decades in Ahmedabad.

You can reach to him at:
Cell: +91 98240 63332
Email:     dr9824063332@in.com
Website: www.s4sq.com & http://www.impotenceinfocentre.com

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Devang Vibhakar is the Founder and Editor of www.SpeakBindas.com who has interviewed more than 300 people. His effort was recognized by Limca Book of Records, twice. He has been to Scotland as well as Germany part of cultural exchange programs. He has compiled five books so far.

35 thoughts on “Women and Sex

  1. Nisha Patel says:

    Dear Dr. Shah,

    I mostly agree with your points of view from the view of a woman.

    You said “Coming to the subject of menstruation, how the monthly cycle could affect a woman’s mood and her sexuality.”

    Yes, it does affect sometimes. I think, you have put the most happening points here, which I really found very useful for myself. Thanks for such an informative article. Look forward to read your more articles on sexuality.

    1. mari umer24year 6e.mari patni jod sex karvo 6e.to mara su karvu mana janav so

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  4. Maheshbhai, I have forwarded your question to Dr. Shah.

    1. mahesh shah says:

      thanks. but, i’ve not received repl from him.

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        Cell: +91 98240 63332
        Email: dr9824063332@in.com
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  8. Minajkhan says:

    Hello sir mare najik na samay ma marriage 6e ane maro saval a 6e ke mare zadpi skhlan thai jay 6e to mare su karvu?

  9. Rajnikant says:

    Hello sir maro saval a 6e ke mare zadpi skhlan thai jay 6e to mare su karvu?
    with out medicine treatment.

    please reply me urgenly…

  10. priyapatel says:

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  11. jigar parmar says:

    sex no anand ane romance karvano anand ghano fark 6e.

  12. deven chaudhary says:

    mari age 23 year chhe.
    me aaj sudhi kyarey sex karyu nathi.
    atyare jyare hu mari girlfriend sathe sex karvano try karu chhu tyare maro penis utejit thato nathi ane even mari girlfrnd mukh maithun karwano try kare to pan shishna em nu em j rahe chhe…
    to mane kai physical weakness hase k su?
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  13. Dear A...J......... says:

    dear sir,
    mari age 21 year ni cche ane mari gf ni age 24 year ni chhe ae mane ak saptah ma 5 thi 6 vakhat mane sex karvanu kahe chhe pan hu na padu chhu mane dar lage chhe k su thase aagal ane haju suthi aavo anubhav kyarey karyo j nahi to kahe chhe k mare marrage pahela tari sathe sex karvu chhe tomare su ane sex karvu joia k nhi ane age ma moti hoy to sex ma koi problem aave k su mane aa babte jadapthi margadarshan aapva vinati. ane mari sate ae halma mukh maithun kre chhe to ane koi problem to nhai aave ne ane hu ani sathe marrage kari saku k nhi aa pan janavso plz…..

    1. Jigar panchal says:

      Mari umer25year 6e.mari patni jod sex karvo 6e. to mara su karvi patni sex ma rash nathi

  14. Heet says:

    Mari wife ni age 23year 6e ane hamara marriage 2year thaya 6e ane hamare 6okra thata nathi to pls upay batava vinnanti.

  15. mara marriage ne 16 year thaya 6. mare count mines 6. ghana dr. ni medecin lidhi parantu count ma vadharo thato nathi to have mare kya dr. ni advise levi. ane aa vat no upay janavva vinanti 6.

  16. pratapbhai says:

    mara marriage ne 16 year thaya 6. mare count mines 6. ghana dr. ni medecin lidhi parantu count ma vadharo thato nathi to have mare kya dr. ni advise levi. ane aa vat no upay janavva vinanti 6.g

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  21. sanket says:

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  23. vikash says:

    rep,sir hu married chu mara lagen ne tren varsh thai gya cha mari wife ne ek vear missket karu padiyu hatu child na apurta vikash na karne te pachi mari wife ne child nathi rhetu doctr ne dekhdi chukya che amera bane na report normal cha mari wife ne masik pen raguler ave cha to pachi sa mate badek nathi rhetu.ame 1vars thi gikoljist pase thi dave lai che.but no rejalt? help me sir!

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  26. Dhaval joshi says:

    Sir mrei din me 4 5 baar hastmaithun karneki habit hai to kya ye mere liye problem creat kar sakti hai kya?

  27. tusharpatel says:

    sar mari patni na stan kadak karva kayo protin paudar bajar ma male 6e.

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